To Divorce? Or Not?

You know if you aren't married or have never been married.

 

              Why would you tell people married people to get a divorce. God put them together for a reason, and because of that reason Satan refuse to see God's blessings. So Satan harden the heart of the two, to make them think their marriage is irreconcilable. You know, he trick their minds into thinking there's not anything either one can say or do to work it out!
                       Instead as a Christian you aught to encourage them to find solutions, communicate in a positive manner, and use the word of God to lift them up, pray with them, and pray for them. 

"Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. " 

                     When God allow two people to get married the two really do become one. 

There was a pastor,  a couple of friends that weren't married, and friends in miserable marriages, that encouraged a couple's divorce during a time of their weakness. They sought help not realizing  the pastor was lost and of course encouraged divorce because he was divorced. Therefore he didn't see anything wrong with divorce. With that pastor experiencing a divorce through his pain and emotional bondage from the first, it would have been hard for him to encourage someone to do something he couldn't even do right! (Marriage to 1 woman)

"1 Corinthians 7:3, 5 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency." 

                    Think about what the bible teach us, when we are saved we are married to Christ/God so I ask you are we allowed to divorce Christ or would you divorce Christ the minute something doesn't go your way? NO 

"Matthew 19:5-6, 8 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so."

                    If you read in the book of Revelations it talks about us Christians and how Jesus was sent and prepared a way for us, but it is reference as to a husband and wife!!! "Revelation 19:7-8 Let us be glad and rejoice, and give honour to him: for the marriage of the Lamb is come, and his wife hath made herself ready. And to her was granted that she should be arrayed in fine linen, clean and white: for the fine linen is the righteousness of saints." 

                    Well even though I am divorce, I cannot encourage a married woman to get divorce no matter what she goes through JUST REMEMBER IT TAKES TWO.  It's not always a one sided  story, no matter how much you put the blame on the other. Ask yourself "What am/did I do wrong?" just think about what your contribution to the problem was.  No one person is without fault! 

I love the Lord with my whole heart

I started discipleship classes in January of this year, I felt like God was leading me  to get to know him deeper and trust him because I have TRUST ISSUES. I went through the steps first I took the class call The Cost of Discipleship for six weeks little things were happening to me and I kind of shrug them off.

Then I finished that class and bought my main discipleship book and was studying it daily, and meeting with my mentor, but soon after that big things started happening to me, I started changing and things started breaking down in my life. I was in a state of depression, anger, bitterness, lust, gave in to some temptations, low self-esteem, loss of my car, falling in and out of love, over eating, and lots of other things.

You know after going through most of the things I was going through I didn’t give up on what God kept telling me byt staying in his word. The worst part og going through it all was, I would meet with my Spiritual Mentor Frequently and soon after, our weekly meetings became shorter and shorter then it was some weeks of not meeting at all, I began to doubt if what I was doing for God was right and if it was for God at all!

I kept second guessing myself asking if everything I am doing if I am doing it for God and how do I know I am doing it for God because I just wanted to be a good person and not the person I once was.

God revealed to me

2 Timothy 1:7

⁷ For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.

So I began to study more and more as I was forced into the trials I was going through, you know what kept me encouraged was I kept remembering it is someone going through something way worst than me! Not only that but God revealed to me about Jesus and what he went through!

Matthew 27:27-34, John 19

Mark 15:14-25

¹⁴ Then Pilate said unto them, Why, what evil hath he done? And they cried out the more exceedingly, Crucify him.

¹⁵ And so Pilate, willing to content the people, released Barabbas unto them, and delivered Jesus, when he had scourged him, to be crucified.

¹⁶ And the soldiers led him away into the hall, called Praetorium; and they call together the whole band.

¹⁷ And they clothed him with purple, and platted a crown of thorns, and put it about his head,

¹⁸ And began to salute him, Hail, King of the Jews!

¹⁹ And they smote him on the head with a reed, and did spit upon him, and bowing their knees worshipped him.

²⁰ And when they had mocked him, they took off the purple from him, and put his own clothes on him, and led him out to crucify him.

²¹ And they compel one Simon a Cyrenian, who passed by, coming out of the country, the father of Alexander and Rufus, to bear his cross.

²² And they bring him unto the place Golgotha, which is, being interpreted, The place of a skull.

²³ And they gave him to drink wine mingled with myrrh: but he received it not.

²⁴ And when they had crucified him, they parted his garments, casting lots upon them, what every man should take.

²⁵ And it was the third hour, and they crucified him.

After reading all of what Jesus went through, there was no way I could ever in life complain about anything I am going through ever!

I realized Jesus loved me when I didn’t love myself, when no other person in the world loved me but Jesus did love me. I knew I just wanted God’s will for me and nothing else!

Psalm 118:1-8

118 O give thanks unto the Lord; for he is good: because his mercy endureth for ever. ² Let Israel now say, that his mercy endureth for ever. ³ Let the house of Aaron now say, that his mercy endureth for ever. ⁴ Let them now that fear the Lord say, that his mercy endureth for ever. ⁵ I called upon the Lord in distress: the Lord answered me, and set me in a large place. ⁶ The Lord is on my side; I will not fear: what can man do unto me? ⁷ The Lord taketh my part with them that help me: therefore shall I see my desire upon them that hate me.⁸ It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in man.

I just kept trying to be encouraged even when temptation came my way. At times I would act on the temptation and go against God but I would repent and try not to do those things again, it’s a struggle for me at times not to do what I want because the fleshly me want what I want but the spiritual me want what God want for me!

Proverbs 3:3-8

³ Let not mercy and truth forsake thee: bind them about thy neck; write them upon the table of thine heart:

⁴ So shalt thou find favour and good understanding in the sight of God and man.

⁵ Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

⁶ In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

⁷ Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the Lord, and depart from evil.

⁸ It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones.

The methods I used to be encouraged was reading God’s word, speaking the truth, listening to God’s word, removing myself from bitterness and bitter people but interacting with people God placed in my path that were on the righteous path.

Just the other day my mentor an dI were talking and she was like "You know all that time you were going through it Katie I was giving the devil too much power in your situation, I was reading the book of Exodus and realized God allows us to go throught these things so we could remember it was God that delivered us from our trials"
then that hit me what she said because prior to her and I talking I had just told my step dad I believe God allows us to go through certain situations and trials to grow our Trust, see our own strength and gain power through him!

I love you

God is so good!

Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 6.In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

I am reminded of how great God is daily. I loved, lusted, and lost.

Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

             I just found out how God use people around us to reveal to us our hearts desires, and how true we are to him. God allowed me to go through three important phases, that I’ve truly learned a valuable lesson from and so glad God put me through it to learn from it. I am so pleased God used the person he used to show me how to love God stronger.

Psalm 73:26 My flesh and my heart faileth: but God is the strength of my heart, and my portion for ever.

          Often as the flesh we want what we want and forget we need to want what God want for us, we think we can make the right decisions for our lives.

     God reminded me I need to want what God wants for me. With emotions and fleshly temptations we know what God is telling us, but we try to tell God “Wait, no hold on, let me just see where this goes God, I am still for you Father in Heaven but!...”  We see with our eyes and want with our hearts, we think if we could just have what we want then we could be happy.

          This is how God revealed to me how wonderful he is, I met an Amazing Mad Lovable man, then I broke up with him because I just knew it was wrong to love him the way I loved him. It seemed so right when I knew in my heart it was wrong God kept telling me over and over

"So are you going to start listening to me or what, now look at you these thoughts, this reaction, and the way you’re acting"

God kept showing me the signs and I refused to accept the signs. I lost my cell phone 2 phones, got into a carwreck, phone got cut off, dropped my laptop had to get a new one, and transmission went out in my car.

             

                                                  So. 

                I was missing him, I desired to talk to him, I wanted to feel his touch, and I wanted him so bad. It was a bad feeling I was like "this guy" , sadly we started back talking, against God's will, and I had the nerves to pray about it and God surely God revealed to me how God is in control of everything and everyone and sadly the guy and I broke up again, and  my heart was broken for a moment.

Psalm 38:3 There is no soundness in my flesh because of thine anger; neither is there any rest in my bones because of my sin

                        So I dove into the bible to find answers asking to why, why am I always trusting people and getting hurt. I wanted to know why I was hurt God always reveal the truth to me, but, at that time I didn’t want to see or hear the truth because I was so happy someone loved me and I loved them back. I had went through a period of being emotionless, not capable of loving anyone or having feelings for anyone on an adult level.

                   I am so saved by God because the thoughts are just as bad as the actions, and God knows how bad I wanted to act on the thoughts of him that brought joy to my heart at that moment. I was mad because I know what I want for myself isn’t right and it will never be right, I couldn’t understand why I couldn’t trust God when God was telling me on every level it was going to end up wrong. I was mad because I feel like I can't trust God and I know God only want what's right for me.
              
                I love God for loving me so much, God reveal the truth to me even when he knows it will hurt me but it’s all done in love and I wasn’t hurt as bad as I thought I was, after my commune with God it was all ok.  

Psalm 84:2 My soul longeth, yea, even fainteth for the courts of the LORD: my heart and my flesh crieth out for the living God.

               This experience has brought me closer and closer to God, I am so Glad God allowed me to go through it, to learn from it and become stronger. I give God all the praise and all the glory for teaching me to love myself, and to love him stronger.

Jeremiah 32:27 Behold, I am the LORD, the God of all flesh: is there any thing too hard for me?

All I can say is I trust you Father in Heaven strip away from me the desires that are not of you. I know there is nothing too hard for God. I know if it is from God it is good. I know if I wait on God, and not rely on my own desires in the end I will get a greater blessing.